Category: Dating and Relationships
Just need some advice on a situation i am in at the moment. I was with this guy a couple of months ago but the thing is i did'nt feel secure in the relationship where he had been out with so many girls before and used them even though he told me that i was the one he always wanted. Anyway i finished it as a break to think about things and he told me that he would wait till i was ready to continue with the relationship. This continued then about a month later he started going out with one of my friends. He told me that he did it because i was being really distant with him during the break and it did'nt seem like i was interested and to be honest i was being like that towards him juring the split. Anyway a couple of weeks after that he dumped her and now he wants to get back with me. He admits he's made a mistake and says he only wants me. Do i forgive and forget evrything thats happened? Or should i forget about it? Soz about the long message i just had to fit it all in so you could get a clear picture.
Hi Suzy.
To be totally realistic with you I would not go back. I know that he will no do the same thing again. I am sorry. But that is the way I feel about.
susy, don't go back! as romeo says, he's only saying that, just so he can go back with you. yoyu watch, he'll only cheat again
If he can't wait for you like he said he would, then forget him.
You don't need someone like that.
you need to think long and hard, if you can ever trust him again after all this. plus, you took a break for a reason, right? now you need to ask yourself if you truly want him back, and if you can trust him enough that he won't cheat on you. If you can't forgive him, or trust him, then like the others said, don't even think about going back with him. I reeeeeally hate to say it, but once a cheater, always a cheater. Having said all this, good luck in following your heart, caus in the end, it's your! decition. no-one can make it for you, not even him.
No, I'd let him go for good. It sounds to me like he really doesn't care about you or your feelings. He just wants to be with you because he can't stand being single. Let him find someone else to satisfy that need. You deserve better.
I would go back. people change and if you trust him then you trust him.
people can change. Sheesh whatever happened to second chances, gosh. Personally, I do believe people can change for the better, and cheaters aren't always cheaters, but that's just me.
to be honest, it's no one's place to tell you what you should or shouldn't do, just follow your heart.
yes, but if she takes him back, and he does it to her again, she'll be more hurt than she is now, whouldn't she? All I meant was, that if she does decide to take him back, not to let him treat her like he did. If he's changed, and it isn't just words, then all the more power to both of you. If you can forgive him, and take him back knowing that you don't deserve to be treated like he did, and it's your own choice, no-one pressuring you, then your a strong woman. Second chances are grate, but not third or fourth.
i treat the whole thing like a baseball game. three strikes, then you're outa here! lol
better than one, Blake.
Nope ... he went out with her friend. It's a moot point now.
She stated pretty clearly that he'd been out with girls before and used them ... said he only wanted her but went out with her friend anyway. Um, no. Let's just avoid that situation altogether.
I have to ask you, though, Suzy, how do you feel about this guy? Do you like/love him? Where do you stand? You broke it off with him first, and then he said he wanted you back ... but you never mentioned if you had enough time to think about it. Ultimately, you should do what you feel is right.
Its really hard because i do still have feelings but i really don't know if i could trust him again especially after what happened if i was insecure before its deffinetely not going to be any better this time.
People can change, but usually they don’t. Don’t believe a person when they say they’ve changed that quickly. I’d say don’t go back, but it’s up to you at the end of the day.
Well i am deffenately not going back found out he's just got with some one else just proves again it was all a load of shit and i just fell sorry for the girl he's about to hurt this time.
I agree with Chelsea, it's your choice what you do, follow your heart and you can't make a mistake, also forgiving is one thing, like I can forgive a lot of the time, but forgetting is something that takes a lot of time. I hope this helps. God Bless
agreed 100% with tony, best of luck. and yeah don't take that stuff if all he's gonna do is hurt you in the end.
suz u know wot i th8ink don't go back there i won't b either. he is with lotty but i am sure she will find otu soon enough about how he is she will be really hurt and u don't want him doing that again to you do you?
well, clearly sure as hel tells ya something about that guy. joker don't know what the hell he wants. it's a good thing you aint takeing him back, he would amade your life a liveing hell after all the other girls that he is dateing pluss you. a heart can only take so much, you know.
People do change, but it cirtainly doesn't happen over night, and usually they change when they're forced to when they realize what they've done wrong either because it's been done to them or because they really lost something important. People also mature, but again it takes time. an 18 year old is different than a 25 year old in most cases, and over time people do change, and sometimes they even learn. It doesn't always happen though.
I wouldn't go back with him. He's just going to hurt you again, and you honestly don't need that pain.
don't bother with this guy he manipulated you in to feeling that way about him he's obviously not mature enough for someone like u, maybe in another life sure but really, if your gut tells u I don't feel secure with this guy why put yourself in an unwanted situation. Trust me if he really wanted u in the first place he wouldn't have messed around with your friend and make up an excuse about u being to distent. sure it's allways good to forgive I say do one or the other it is hard for sanyone to do both but don't bother with this guy, he had a chance and he blew it, find some man who's worthy of your attention not some boy who seems to be fickle.